What God Has Taught Me – The Never Ending Story Part 2



Praise God with me.  I have had 5 days in a row depression free with little fatigue or pain!  I know that this won’t last forever, but I am thankful for this time of refreshing and peace.  This time gives me the ability to be reminded of what God has done and will continue to do in and through me.

As I look back into my journals, I see that God has never left me.  His great plan of changing me into the likeness of Christ will continue.  I hope what He has revealed to me, will be encouraging to you.  Here are more lessons I have learned.

  1. (An entry from 2006) I’ve let my pursuit of health come before God.  Forgive me!  God’s ultimate objective is to bring me to a state in which I please Him entirely and praise Him adequately, a state in which He is all in all to me.  He allows my illness in order to detach my love from other things and attach it to Himself.


  1. (While in Romania I was asked to give a message at church. Here were the highlights).

I would like to share with you a very difficult time in my life where God taught me many lessons and changed me in many ways…..  My body reacted to the stress and I underwent several operations and experienced severe fatigue and depression.  At that time my worth was based on my performance – I was proud of my many talents and gifts and energy.  Why would God take this all away from me? I was doing good works.  God answered me, “You can still pray”, which has changed my prayers from simple to deep heart felt talks with God.  “You must listen, be still and know I am God” ,  Ps 37:7- Be still and wait patiently for Him.  “Rely only on Me”, Prov. 16:9 – A man’s heart plans his way, but the Lord directs His steps.  “Be content with who I made you to be and your current situation.” 


  1. God has taught me much about weakness. Like common pottery, I am fragile and flawed and break easily.  But God will use me if I allow Him to work through my weakness. My weakness causes me to depend on Him.  God often attaches a major weakness to a major strength to keep me from going to fast and running ahead!  My greatest life messages and effective ministry will come out of my deepest hurts.  Sometimes God turns a strength into a weakness in order to use me even more.  If I want God to bless me and use me, I must be willing to walk with a limp the rest of my life.

“To this end I labor, struggling with all His energy,

which so powerfully works in me!”  Col. 1:29

  1. “Don’t look back”   This has been one of the hardest things to do.  Thinking about what I used to be able to do.  My focus needs to be forward, my eyes on Him.

“Not that I have already obtained all this,

or have already been perfected, but I press on

to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me.

Brothers, I do not consider myself yet to have laid hold of it.

But one thing I do:   Forgetting what is behind and

straining toward what is ahead,

I press on toward the goal to win the prize

of God’s heavenly calling in Christ Jesus.”

Philippians 3:12-14




Pleasing God

Pleasing God


I’ve really have been struggling with some questions that come to mind when I am exhausted, in pain and deep in depression.  I’ve been praying and looking for the answers and God has been faithful to point me in the right direction.  These are the same questions I have asked many times and God has always answered but obviously I haven’t learned all I need to, nor has my life been transformed enough to not ask these questions again.

I believe that God loves me and is pleased with me but what about when I am not able to serve others and serve Him?  Is He still pleased with me?  Does He delight in others more, who can carry on His good work?  Ah-ha moment!  I have realized that the questions all point to a common problem. Pride!  Why can’t I be satisfied with myself during illness? Why do I think I have to do more to please Him?  Is it because I don’t want to disappoint Him? Or am I disappointed in myself when I’m not able to do more?  How much is enough? Is this about Him or me?  I believe I’m faithful to Him. Does the lack of “doing” make me less faithful or disobedient?

The mind can be very deceptive and feed you lies which Satan fans. I’m going to share what God has taught me concerning these questions that plague me during my lowest moments.

“His pleasure is not in strength of the horse,

nor His delight in the legs of the warrior;

the Lord delights in those who fear Him,

who put their hope in His unfailing love.”

Psalm 147:10-11

 In an article from by Jada Pryor, the writer says this: “The Lord is not impressed with the things that the world sees as important. He cares little for our physical strength, speed, or agility. He smiles upon the strength of our love for Him.  His pleasure comes from those who most swiftly move towards Him.  His delight comes from our hope and faith in his perfect abilities, not our own. “… “What God delights in about us is that we delight in Him.”

It’s not my striving to do more that pleases Him but, rather to delight in and love God Himself. 

 “And without faith it is impossible to please God,

because anyone who comes to Him

must believe that He exists

and that He rewards those who

earnestly seek Him.” 

Hebrews 11:6

How can I best please God?  By cultivating my faith and love for Him.  By seeking Him above all else.

Scotty Smith in an article from says: “God loves you just as much as He loves Jesus.  God cannot love you more, and He will never love you less.  God doesn’t love you to the degree you are like Christ, but to the degree you are in Christ.”

I’m not special or loved by what I can do for Him, but I am special and loved when I’m in a relationship with Christ! During those dark moments of illness, I can be assured that God is pleased and delights in me because my faith keeps me close to Him.  What a great relief to just rest in His arms during those hard times rather than struggle to fight the illness.

“Don’t forget in the darkness

what you have learned in the light.” 

Corrie Ten Boom

 Thank you, Father God, for your great love and faithfulness to me.  For taking my heart and scraping out the pride and replacing it with more of You.





Part of my therapy this week is to write down what God has taught me through my struggle with pain, fatigue and depression.  Wow, what a big assignment.  I decided the best way to do this was to go back through all my journaling.  Well, after many pages and barely touching all the journals, I came up with 20 things so far.  This will end up being an extensive list!  I have decided to pass them on to you in installments.  Here is Part I!

  • Pray! The battle is spiritual and must be fought in God’s strength, depending on the Word and on God through pray. THE BATTLE DOES BELONG TO THE LORD.
  • Col l:19, “To this end I labor, struggling with all HIS energy, which so powerfully works in me.”
  • Is 40:31, “Yet those who WAIT for the Lord will gain strength…”
  • Consider others better than yourself. Ph 2:1-8
  • Be still and know I am God. Be still and WAIT patiently for Him Ps 37:7  (Hmmm reoccurring theme).
  • Just one thing. Baby steps. Just the next thing,
  • Think, “What would Jesus do?”
  • LET GO and LET GOD! Surrender, the battle is His. (Another reoccurring theme).
  • Whenever Jesus turned His face toward one responsibility, He had to turn His back on another, just as I must do. But instead of letting the pressure of unmet needs determine His direction, He responded according to His sense of God’s purpose. Get my priorities from the Lord and I won’t be frustrated when I find I can’t do it all.
  • Be flexible. Ministry is not what I schedule but what comes as an intrusion to my schedule.
  • Just say NO!
  • In my difficulties, know God is working powerfully behind the scenes for my good – melting, molding me to be more like Jesus.
  • Life is about letting God use me for His purposes, not using Him for my purposes.
  • Stop doing more than God intended me to do.
  • Take my hands off the wheel! If God is going to do the deepest work in me, it will begin with surrender (heard that one before!).  So, give it ALL to God.  My past regrets, my present problems, my future ambitions, my fears, my dreams, weaknesses, habits, hurts, and hang-ups.
  • Be sensitive to the Spirits promptings.
  • Don’t run ahead! Talk to God, listen to Him, enjoy His presence. It’s not just about the destination that’s important, but the journey we take together.
  • Pain can be the instrument of spiritual growth. Without pain I wouldn’t be all that God wants me to be.  His strength shines through my weaknesses. 2Cor 12:9
  • I plan and picture my future, but things don’t always work out that way. Be open to God’s appointed changes in direction.  Prov 16:9
  • I shouldn’t be too taken back when unexpected and upsetting and discouraging things happen to me. God in His wisdom means to make something of me which I have not attained yet, and He is dealing with me accordingly.  I may be bewildered at things that happen to me, but God knows exactly what He is doing, and what He is after, in the handling of my affairs…I ought not to hesitate to trust His wisdom, even when He leaves me in the dark…What ever purpose trials may have … I can be assured of this purpose – to make and keep me humble and to give me a new opportunity of showing forth the power of Christ in my life.  DO I EVER NEED TO KNOW ANY MORE THAN THAT?!


Fight or Give Up?




It’s been a tough week.  I don’t know whether to keep fighting or give up.  I’m so tired of fighting. My mind, body and spirit are drained.  It seems like I keep fighting the same battles over and over. Is there a difference between acceptance and giving up?  A difference between letting go and giving up?

How can my life seem so good, yet I’m fatigued, depressed and in pain? Why does it engulf me at the oddest times for no apparent reason?  It pulls on me and I know I’m going under, but I have no idea how to escape its grasp on me. I hate it! I want to be rid of it! I know all I can do is cry out to God.  I must “let go” and “let God.”  I have no strength- so LET GO.  It’s not a surrender to fatigue, depression or pain, but going to a safe place until rescue comes – so I have enough strength to battle.  It’s so slow and hard to wait.  To see God’s arms around me.  WAIT. One step forward in the battle.  But I just want to give up!  Take me oh Lord!  Finally, I see a glimmer of light, another step to fight.  Keep moving forward.  His arms are still around me. He will rescue me.  Remember what He has done and will do.  His promises have always been true. Afterwards give thanks, be grateful.  Reflect on the process so you have ammunition for the next battle.  It will come.  Don’t grow weary.  Don’t give up.

During the midst of my waiting I found a wonder article that was the answer I needed. In her article, Betsy St. Amant  ( says:

Giving up equals defeat.

But letting go equals surrender.

The definition of surrender is to yield to the power, control, or possession of another.

In other words, you stop fighting a battle you can’t win and turn it over to the One who can. You yield to God’s power, control and possession and stop attempting those things by yourself.

But surrender doesn’t come without a cost – you have to step back and let go.

Letting go means releasing your dream or your problem, your it, into God’s hands. It means putting your full faith in the fact that He now holds it and will not let it—or you—go.

The difference between letting go and giving up?

When you give up, you find yourself alone and shaken.

When you let go, you find yourself held and secure.

God is good and will never leave you.  Go and encourage someone!




Today I’m finishing up a Bible study on Ruth.  A short story, but with powerful implications.  The author of the study sums it up beautifully.  I needed this.  Hope it touches you too.

Summary by Whitney Woollard “Ruth A Story of God’s Kindness & Redemption”:  “The Book of Ruth is a profoundly human book about ordinary people – people like you and me – who portray an extraordinary alternative to the way of life, the way of  hesed, 

(Hesed is difficult to translate because it stands for a cluster of ideas—love, mercy, grace, kindness. It wraps up in itself all the positive attributes of God.  Hesed is one of the Lord’s most treasured characteristics. Hesed is a quality that moves someone to act for the benefit of someone else without considering “what’s in it for me?”)

in the midst of great suffering.  Ruth shows us that our ordinary lives can have extraordinary purpose.  As we are faithful to God and God’s people in the midst of tragedy, loss, barrenness, moves, sickness, difficult relationships, work, dating;/engagements, family life, raising children, or just daily grind, WE CAN BE CONFIDENT THAT GOD’S UNSEEN HAND IS WORKING OUT HIS GLORIOUS PURPOSES IN THE WORLD FOR HIS GLORY AND OUR GOOD.  This infuses our seemingly ordinary and mundane days with divine purpose.  THIS MEANS YOUR LIFE IS MEANINGFUL.  Your work, play, rest, life, relationships, and even your PAIN all have meaning because God is using them to work out His purposes.”

WOW! This really spoke to me.  God is using my fatigue, pain and depression for His purposes!  The great thing is that He makes promises that get us through this fatigue, pain and depression too.  He will never allow more than you can handle.  He will never leave or forsake you.  His love castes out all fear.  There are many more promises.  I encourage you to turn to Him for the answers and support you need and don’t forget to look to others for their prayers, support, and encouragement, then do likewise.


Glorious Ruins

Hillsong Worship

When the mountains fall
And the tempest roars You are with me
When creation folds
Still my soul will soar on Your mercy

I’ll walk through the fire
With my head lifted high
And my spirit revived in Your story
And I’ll look to the cross
As my failure is lost
In the light of Your glorious grace

So Let the ruins come to life
In the beauty of Your Name
Rising up from the ashes
God forever You reign

And my soul will find refuge
In the shadow of Your wings
I will love You forever
And forever I’ll sing

When the world caves in
Still my hope will cling to Your promise
Where my courage ends
Let my heart find strength in Your presence

Songwriters: Joel Houston / Matt Crocker

Glorious Ruins lyrics © Capitol Christian Music Group

MY STORY (A journey through chronic fatigue, pain and depression)


Today I feel compelled to tell my story.  Not to gain sympathy or help, but to share in hopes that my story will encourage and help others.

This won’t be the whole story.  There is too much to put into a short chapter.  It’s a start.  An introduction.  It is my hope to continue this story and include many chapters from the past and on into the future.

I have been struggling with chronic fatigue, pain and depression for most of my life.  I say “struggle” because it is a battle.  Everyday these maladies affect me in some way.  Why have I chosen this day to speak out?  To share my stories.  I have shared bits and pieces with close friends in the past, but my journaling today spoke to me.  I was reminded that only if I boast of my weakness can God do His work through me.

After looking through the many years of journaling this journey, I found that I have come to this cross roads many times.  I desire to share what God has done in my life and will continue to do.  So where to start?  I’ll start with today and go from there.  If God is truly using me in this way, He will continue to give me the energy and desire I need to post more.

Journal 4/8/19:   Well, here I am again!  I haven’t journaled since 2017!  God you’ve taken me through a tough journey.  My health and identity at the heart of it all.  I’m on the journey to heal again.  You rescued me! Please help me to continue on the journey.  Use me.  Use my journey to help others.

(Please note that some of what I journal has not come directly from me, but from other sources, but the words spoke to me and I identify with them.  Today I have chosen words from “Chronic Pain” Living by Faith When Your Body Hurts” by Michael R. Emlet CCEF, and from “Depression” A Stubborn Darkness”, by Edward T. Welch., and of course the Bible.)

Constant pain, life constricted, daily, unrelenting.

Is it still possible to persevere and live out God’s purpose for my life? Is there grace enough?

Depressed people are eloquent, even when they feel empty at their emotional core, devoid of personhood.  Meaningless pain…. (all I) want in life: for this pain to seem purposeful.

Decisions? Impossible. The mind is locked.  How can (I) choose? Nothing is working, the engine of (my)mind is barely turning over.  And aren’t most decisions emotional preferences?  Life is flat, gray, cold. Nothing holds interest…Yet pain breaks through in this lifeless numb state…When (I) remember that (I) once was alive…but (I) try to forget those times because the contrast is unbearable.

2 Cor 12:5…but I will not boast about myself, except in my weakness…I was given a thorn in my flesh to torment me…Three times I pleaded with the Lord to take it away from me.  But He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My power is perfected in weakness.”  Therefore, I will boast all the more gladly in my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest on me.

NLT version: My grace is ALL you need. My power works best in weakness.  So now I am GLAD to BOAST about my weaknesses so that the POWER of Christ can work THROUGH me.

Grace is NOT based on works.  I should approach God with CONFIDENCE to find grace to help in time of need.  He gives me even more grace to stand against evil. By God’s grace I am what I am. Be strong in the grace that is in Christ Jesus.

Grace is favour, the FREE and UNDESERVED HELP that God gives me to REPOND to His CALL to BECOME A CHILD of God, an adoptive daughter, a partaker of the divine nature and of eternal life.

So, my conclusion for today is:
1) Approach God confidently to receive grace.

2) Boast of weakness so that the power of God will rest on me and so God can do His work through me.

3)Be satisfied with who I am because His grace makes me who I am.

I hope this has been helpful to you in some way.  May God bless your journey.



Power of Your Love

Hillsong Worship

Lord I come to You
Let my heart be changed, renewed
Flowing from the grace
That I’ve found in You
Lord I’ve come to know
The weaknesses I see in me
Will be stripped away
By the power of Your love

Hold me close
Let Your love surround me
Bring me near
Draw me to Your side
And as I wait
I’ll rise up like the eagle
And I will soar with You
Your Spirit leads me on
In the power of Your love

Lord unveil my eyes
Let me see You face to face
The knowledge of Your love
As You live in me
Lord renew my mind
As Your will unfolds in my life
In living every day
By the power of Your love

Hold me close
Let Your love surround me
Bring me near
Draw me to Your side
And as I wait
I’ll rise up like the eagle
And I will soar with You
Your Spirit leads me on
In the power of Your love


How can I fight back when my body says, “give up?”  Chronic illness or loss and depression can put a stronghold on our mind and body.  God may not release our bodies but we can find victory over our mind!  It’s not easy, we need to go to war.

“Therefore, we do not lose heart,

 but though our outer man is decaying,

 yet our inner man is being

 renewed day by day.” 2 cor. 4:16

2 Corinthians 10:3 tells us, “We do not war according to the flesh, for the weapons of our warfare are not of the flesh, but divinely powerful for the destruction of fortresses (strongholds).”  We can overcome the stronghold of our mind with the divine power God can give to us. Verse 5 says, “we ARE destroying…we ARE taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ.”

How can we do this?  We are weak, our bodies are weak and our mind just as weak.  Ephesians tells us the two methods we can use to take those thoughts captive and wage war with our weak mind.

“Therefore, take up the full armor of God…resist…stand firm…take up the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God…With all prayer and petition pray at all times in the Spirit…”

Beth Moore in her book, “Praying God’s Word”, says that by taking up these two offensive weapons we can defeat strongholds.  By adding scripture to our prayers, we can fight back and be victorious “against the rulers, against the powers, against the world forces of this darkness (attacking our mind).”

My prayer is that you will be strong in the Spirit of prayer and use God’s weapon, His holy Word, to fight the war of your mind.  May it bring you peace in your struggle over your weak body so that you are better able to continue to serve Him!


Why Illness?

Why this?  Why me?  Will it never end?  Are these questions you ask every day because you suffer from some illness or loss? The apostle Paul must have asked some of the same questions when referring to his “thorn in the flesh”.  He prayed three times with no positive result.  But there was a positive result, just not the one he had prayed for – to be cured.

What about the man who was blind from birth?  The disciples asked Jesus, ““Rabbi, who sinned, this man or his parents, that he was born blind?”  And then there was Lazarus.  Jesus did not come to him when he was sick and cure him but stayed away three days after his death.  Why? In both cases Jesus answered that the blind man and the death of Lazarus were for the GLORY OF GOD!

How then can we, who suffer from chronic illness or loss, expect any other answer for our maladies other than “it is for the GLORY OF GOD!”  We may not know what that means in the great plan of our lives but we can be assured that God will use it for His good! We should never stop praying for healing but we should stop worrying about healing.  Like with the blind man it may come later in in life, or like with Lazarus, God is waiting for just the right timing.

Now we have our answers to those questions.  John 11:4, “When Jesus heard this He said, “This sickness is not to end in death, but for the glory of God, so that the Son of God may be glorified by it.”” For later he said, “I am the resurrection and the life; he who believes in Me will live even if he dies, and everyone who lives and believes in Me will never die. Do you believe?”



Choose Joy

“When we go through troubles, afflictions, persecutions, danger, illness, distress, when the enemy comes to steal, kill, and destroy, we can have genuine joy in our hearts.”

Thelma Wells

Is this really possible? When we are feeling so down can we experience real joy?  Sometimes I wonder.    Jeremiah 31:13 says, “I’ll convert their weeping into laughter, lavishing comfort, invading their grief …with joy.”   This promise means there is a way to find that joy in our difficulties.

 Today I was thinking more about putting my focus on Jesus.  To do that I must take my eyes off myself and the circumstances around me.  Then I asked myself, “if I focus on Jesus what will I see?”  What does focusing on Jesus show me?  I would see Jesus as a servant.  Serving others, caring, loving, encouraging.  How can I be expected to do that when I myself am needy?  If I follow Jesus and come side-by-side with Him, then He provides all I need.  I’m able to love others when I myself feel so unloved because Jesus is right there loving me.  I’m able to help others when I myself need help because Jesus is right there helping me and giving me strength.  Soon I don’t even remember my neediness.  I’m full of joy and love because I have been used to give joy and love to others.

“For I have come to have much joy and comfort in your love, because the hearts of the saints have been refreshed through you, brother.”  Philemon 1:7

May this give you a step forward into finding lasting joy.




Do you struggle with priorities?  I sure do.  Even the most organized, ambitious person does.  What about the people who aren’t organized and ambitious?  Do they struggle?  Believing that their life seems useless and unproductive?  You bet they struggle.  In fact, in some ways, it’s much harder for them because, believing they have nothing to give, drives them to set unrealistic goals.

At one point in my life I was struggling with what my priorities were.  I was a busy mom, working outside the home, chauffeuring kids to lessons and events, keeping a home, volunteering at church and trying to keep my husband happy.  It became too much.  But what should I give up or downscale?  I was exhausted daily but I still felt like I should do it all.  It was all necessary!  I cried out, “Lord, God what do I do?  Please tell me what are the priorities I should have and help me to implement them!”

God answered me in a way I didn’t expect.  He not only showed me what my priorities should be but gave me solid scripture to back it up.  My priorities consisted of just three areas!   I am sharing this with you in hopes that it will encourage and inspire you in your own struggle.


  1. My Relationship with God: (God said the battle is spiritual and must be fought in God’s strength, depending on the Word and on God through prayer!)

“Pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests.   With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying.”  Eph. 6:18

  1. My Health: (My pursuit of a healthy body was fruitless unless I lived by the promptings and power of the Spirit which is the key to conquering sinful desires.)

“The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.”  Gal. 5:22 and “To this end I labor, struggling with all His energy, which so powerfully works in me.” Col 1:29


  1. My Family and Friends:

“If you have any encouragement from being united with Christ, if any comfort from His love, if any fellowship with the Spirit, if any tenderness and compassion, then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and purpose.  Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better then yourself; look not to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.  Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus, who …made Himself nothing, taking the very nature of a servant…He humbled Himself…”  Phil. 2:1-8


It hasn’t always been easy sticking to these three areas.  I have found myself frequently having to go back and start over implementing them.  At first I felt guilty, that I couldn’t live up to them, but as time went by I found that God would always give me the strength and conviction to begin again and continue.  All I must do was ask!  I encourage you to ask today.  Ask Him what His priorities for you are and ask for solid bible back up.  Write them down and meditate on them and refer to them when it is needed.